Category: Body

Nothing outside of you is the cause of your suffering.

Nothing outside of you is the cause of your suffering.

Nothing outside of you is the cause of your suffering. Suffering is an inside job.

Nothing outside of you is the cause of your happiness. Happiness is also an inside job.

Pain may be very real, but suffering is optional.

Danger may be very real, but fear is optional.

Meet your thoughts with understanding

Meet your thoughts with understanding

“As we investigate a stressful thought, we see for ourselves that it’s untrue; we get to look at the cause-and-effect of it, to observe in sobering detail exactly what modes of pain and confusion result from believing it; then we get a glimpse into the empty mirror, the world beyond our story of the world, and see what our life would be like without the thought; and finally we get to experience the opposite of what we have so firmly believed. Once we deeply question a thought, it loses its power to cause us pain, and eventually it ceases even to arise.

I don’t let go of my thoughts. I meet them with understanding. Then they let go of me. Questioning thoughts that seem to be true—thoughts that may even feel like part of our identity—takes courage. When we find that courage to get still and go within, we are able to meet the freedom that lives on the other side of inquiry.”

– Byron Katie

Your very essence is peace

Your very essence is peace

Your very essence is peace. Your very nature is peace. You abide in peace.

So, if you find yourself not abiding in peace, you should ask yourself why. What is it that has ruffled your peace? What has taken away your peace?

Usually, peace is lost by a thought.

Whatever act done repeatedly becomes a habit

Whatever act done repeatedly becomes a habit

Whatever act through body, speech and mind that is done repeatedly becomes a habit, and quietly slips below the conscious mind.

Mental habits are useful, but they can also become harmful as circumstances change. What is an appropriate response initially may no longer be appropriate now.

So, re-examine your mental habits.

All Phenomena are Empty and Impersonal

All Phenomena are Empty and Impersonal

To be able to see that all phenomena are actually empty and impersonal is a huge realisation. It is the true characteristic of all natural phenomena, but the ego sees otherwise, and therefore suffers as a result.

It is equally true to say that all phenomena are empty and impersonal, but the ego sees them otherwise and therefore rejoices.

So, it is a matter of perspective whether one experiences happiness or suffering. This is only possible because the actual phenomenon is empty of any intrinsic values, except that which we give to it.

In short, our experiences are shaped by our views.

Universal Lessons from the Covid-19 Pandemic

Universal Lessons from the Covid-19 Pandemic

Starting out in Wuhan, China, at the end of 2019, the Covid-19 virus has spread like wildfire all across the globe within just a few months. It is causing tremendous amount of destruction and disruption to our “normal” lifestyle. There are death and suffering everywhere it goes.

However, looking from a more spiritual perspective, this pandemic may be just the prescription humanity needed right now to reset our views and attitudes towards the world and towards each other, for it teaches us a few very fundamental and essential lessons about life.

  1. Accept reality, instead of resisting or fighting it
  2. Humanity must come together as one family
  3. Actions motivated by fear are destructive for everyone

Accept reality, instead of resisting or fighting it

This is examplified by countries that refuse to acknowledge the global nature of this virus, and by leaders who refuse to face the truth or speak the truth, thus causing the situation to become worse rapidly due to inaction or inappropriate actions. The best example of this is Donald Trump and the way he trivialized it until it became too late to act. Precious early opportunities to contain the spread were missed because of this refusal to acknowledge reality.

Humanity must come together as one family

Precious early opportunities were also missed in China in the early stage of the outbreak in Wuhan, also due to the refusal of their leaders to acknowledge it. However, when the outbreak became apparent, the Chinese government went all out to contain it and prevent its spread. During this time, the rest of the world simply watch and do nothing to help. Our attitude seems to be — it’s your problem, not mine. We should have learned from the Ebola outbreak that early concerted global effort can successfully contain a serious outbreak and prevent it from spreading further.

In addition, when a lockdown was ordered in Wuhan, many of their inhabitants willfully “escaped” the lockdown and travelled overseas, thus spreading the virus to other countries, such as Singapore, Malaysia, the Phillipines, Thailand, etc. This created new clusters elsewhere, making it even harder to be contained, and effectively exporting the virus to the rest of the world. This selfish attitude is the actual cause of the pandemic.

However, this selfish attitude is not exclusive only to the Chinese in Wuhan. We see this selfish attitude in other countries and communities as well. In South Korea, the virus appears to have been well contained until participants in a religious congregation started spreading it elsewhere within and without the country. To date, many of the participants have still refused to come forward voluntarily to be tested. Similar challenges were seen in Malaysia.

In order to successful fight this pandemic, human beings must consciously and intentionally come together as one big family to think and care for each other, instead of acting through selfish impulses.

Actions motivated by fear are destructive for everyone

As we can see from the above, the Covid-19 virus is not the real enemy. The real enemy is fear. Fear and actions motivated by fear are the actual causes of this pandemic.

Fear is seen in many forms. Selfishness is one that we have discussed. Another equally destructive one is denial. The outbreak has shown us many examples of how people in denial of having the Covid-19 infection actually put themselves and their loved ones at risk, as well as their community and the healthcare frontliners working to save them. Everyone of us stand to lose when denial is at work.

This Covid-19 pandemic clearly shows us the negative consequences of actions motivated by fear.

On the other hand, we also see examples of positive consequences of actions motivated by love. We see healthcare workers facing the virus head on, putting themselves and their loved ones at risk so that we and our loved ones can stay safe. They are the real superheroes in our lives.

Basic Principles in Personal Transformation

Basic Principles in Personal Transformation

The most basic factor in personal transformation is the desire to change for the better. This desire to change must come personally from within for any chance of success. It is difficult if the desire to change is forced onto someone who does not want to change. So, personal transformation is a personal choice.

Once you have decided that you want to change for the better, here are a few things to keep in mind:

  1. Awareness before change
  2. Believe that change is not only possible but desirable
  3. Courage to be honest with self
  4. Determination

Awareness Before Change

For any change to be possible, there must be an awareness that we have traits and habits that are not serving us well. By this, I mean, we have habits that are harmful to our well-being or are preventing us to actualise our full potentials. We need to acknowledge that we do have undesirable habits.

Some bad habits are easy to recognise and acknowledge. Others are not. Some may be so subtle that we cannot see them, or we may mistakenly see them as being good for us.

So how do we become more aware of our negative habits? Since we are both body and mind, we need to train ourselves to become more aware of our body and mind. To be more specific, personal transformation is better achieved by being more aware of our mind, and that means the two major aspect of our mind – feelings and thoughts.

The goal of awareness, therefore, is to become more aware of what is happening within us, i.e. our inner world of feelings and thoughts, our self-talk and inner voice. It may be useful to be super aware of what is happening outside of us, but this particular outward awareness is not as useful for us in affecting personal change. More useful for personal transformation is the awareness that we direct inward, in getting to know ourselves (self-knowledge), our feelings and thoughts.

How can we increase our inner self awareness? Here are some ways to do it:

  • Journaling
  • Mindfulness practice
  • Meditation

Believe that change is not only possible but desirable

This is another factor that is required for change to be possible. You have to believe that change is possible, and that it is desirable. Without this belief, you will not be motivated enough to even start.

On the other hand, the stronger you believe it, the more likely you are to succeed. Yes, beliefs are that powerful.

Beliefs are very intimately linked to faith and feelings. When you believe in something, you have faith in it, even when there is no evidence to back up your beliefs. People can get very emotional when their beliefs are challenged or threatened. That is why we have to be extra careful with beliefs. A wrong belief can easily destroy life, just as a right belief can inspire one to great things.

Beliefs can be either beneficial or harmful to us. What this means is that in order for us to become better human beings, we will eventually need to examine our own beliefs. We will need to first recognise our beliefs, determine whether they are self-limiting beliefs or life-enhancing beliefs, and then drop or change those limiting beliefs.

Hve you notice that the practice of spirituality begins with beliefs and ends with knowledge? In any religion, you first begin with faith in the teachings. That is a belief. Then, you must put in the inner work that will eventually lead you to discover the fundamental truths about yourself, about life and about existence. You end with personal experiential knowledge about that which you seek out.

Courage to be honest with self

“Honesty is the best policy” is most apt in this situation where we want to improve ourselves. Without this honesty, we will deny our limiting beliefs and habits, and avoid any effort to change.

So only those with courage will take the necessary steps to transform their lives. That is why this is often called the warrior’s path, or the way of the brave. It can be painful to come face to face with our own weaknesses and shortcomings, but this recognition and acknowledgement is a necessary step before change is possible.

The last factor is therefore putting in the commitment and determination to make the necessary changes in our lives.

4 Pillars of a Meaningful Life

4 Pillars of a Meaningful Life

Happiness is not the same thing as a meaningful life. Most people look for happiness in their lives. However, according to author Emily Esfahani Smith, the way to find happiness in our life is to actually create a meaningful life for ourselves. Then, happiness follows.

She listed down four pillars that provide meaning to our lives. They are:

  1. Belongings – Being appreciated for who we are
  2. Purpose – Our ability to use our gifts to make a difference
  3. Transcendence – Inspiration for looking beyond ourselves
  4. Story Telling – The narrative we create about ourselves

Here is a link to her Ted Talk about this topic: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y9Trdafp83U

Happy New Year 2020!

Happy New Year 2020!

Wishing you a wonderful new year! May you be blessed with good health, joy and peace!

As you leave behind the old year, and usher in the new year, may you also make a sincere aspiration to live each day well for the new year.

Nourish your Relationships

All important things that you want for your worldly life, you get through your relationships with others. Companionship, friendship, a sense of belonging, a successful career, and even things that you like – they all come from your interaction with others. So, nurture all your relationships well. Give careful consideration to decisions you make that affect these relationships. Be grateful for what you already have. Life is a blessing to be shared.

Nourish you Body

Make a point to take care of your health. Nourish your body with healthy, living food. Reduce preservatives, colourings. Eat fresh food. Be moderate in eating. Take a balance meal. Drink enough water each day. Sleep well. Take frequent long walks. Enjoy the sunshine and fresh air. Be happy.

Nourish your Heart

Practice unconditional love – towards yourself as well as others. Remember, you are equally important to life. Your very existence enriches life, adds a unique flavour to it. There is no other person quite like you in this universe. That makes you special. It also means others are equally unique and worthy of unconditional love from you. We are all offsprings of the Creator, so treat everyone with love and respect. Do onto others what you would want others to do onto you.

Nourish your Mind

Spend time to read and learn new things and skills. Knowledge is useful, but it is not wisdom. Wisdom comes from reflections on what you have learned. Wisdom gives values to your knowledge. Wisdom enriches the world, your community, your family and yourself.

Nourish your Spirit

As often as you can, take time off to listen to your heart – that inner being that is truly you. You will find it in the stillness of your mind and heart. In this stillness is all you are, all you will ever need or want. It is here that you see the interconnectedness of all beings, all creations. You will see that we are all brothers and sisters. Peace is our nature, our essense, our rights.

Do these things daily for the new year, and you can be sure that your new year will be an amazing one!

Overcoming the fear of aging

Overcoming the fear of aging

Aging, like sickness and death, is part and parcel of life. Everyone who is born must eventually age and die. This is the natural cycle of life. However, not everyone ages in the same way. Some age gracefully. Others age with fear.

Fear is Optional

If you are fearful of aging, you should know that this fear is not inevitable. It is there only because of your own past experiences, your own beliefs and your own attitude towards it. In the end, it is a matter of choice. Aging is inevitable but fear of aging is not. Aging of this body is a physical phenomenon. That is why it is inevitable. Fear, on the other hand, is a mental phenomenon. It is optional.

Identify Your Fears

If you are fearful of aging, you should try to be more specific and identify what it is that you are really fearful of. Generally, those who fear aging are actually fearful of sickness and death. Those who believe that they can age with a healthy and functioning body have little fear of aging. Those who think of the possibility of sickness and death as they age become fearful.

Having identify our specific fears, it then becomes possible to do something about it.

Fear of Sickness

If it is sickness, then we can start to live a healthy lifestyle. It is never too late to start a habit of living healthily. If you smoke, stop smoking. If you drink alcohol, and especially if you drink heavily, then tone it down. Drink less. Scientific studies have actually shown that a small amount of alcohol is good for your physical health but too much is harmful. Sleep early and wake up early. Sleep well. Exercise regularly. Eat healthily. Drink lots of water. Practice yoga or tai chi. Learn to meditate. All these improve the quality of your life, making you healthier mentally, emotionally and physically.

Fear of Death

If your fear is death, then once again you have to be specific. Is it the process of dying that you are afraid of, or is it death itself? If it is the process of dying, then the real fear for most people is actually the fear of a painful dying process. If that is the case, we have good news for you. Science and medicine today have reached a point where we can almost always minimise pain in the dying process. In most cases, we can even totally eradicate pain. However, even without medicine, pain can still be managed well. Physical pain may be inevitable but mental suffering is optional.

The question then is how do we free ourselves from mental suffering in the presence of physical pain? The answer to that is a strong mind. We can train our mind to be strong and resilient. It is a skill, and like all skills, it takes practice. The most common and popular mind training is meditation. So, learn to meditate, and learn it well. Gain mastery over your own mind. Then you will have little to be fearful of.

Fear of the Unknown

Lastly, if it is death itself that you are afraid of, then it is most likely because death is a big unknown. What happens to us after death? This is a spiritual question, and you will need a spiritual answer. It all comes down to your belief system. So, when you talk about death, and especially when you want a solution to this type of fear about death, then you must re-visit your spirituality, and the very nature of who you are.

Are you simply this body or are you more than just this physical body? When you die, is there a part of you that continues on? This is your quest. It is a journey that none can take for you. Only you can do this for yourself.